"I always like it when a guy notices the little things, like the kind of jewellery I am wearing"- Laura Out of your league
10 steps to getting the girl of your dreams
Follow our 10 tips and you will feel able to approach even the most frosty ice maiden/totally fit honey/girl you consider to be way out of your league.
1. Show no fear
This means you have to approach this girl like she’s any other. Be calm, confident and self-assured. Don’t overdo it or she will think you’re a cocky git. Girls like a man who appears confident even if inside he’s shaking more than a nine on the Richter scale. Walk tall, hold your head high, keep your shoulders back and make eye contact with her. You’re a man who knows what he wants in life and where he’s going so go get her!
2. Timing is everything
Showing no fear is great when you look the part but you’ll look like a first class pratt if you try and approach her whilst wearing the tracksuit you have just been playing football in. If you can bide your time then approach her when your suitably groomed from the ends of your hair to the tips of your toes. If you know you look good this will help you to feel more confident when approaching her and is likely to get you a good result. See our other articles on clothing and grooming.
3. Be polite
So you have managed the walk of death and you are now stood face to face with her. Standing there wide eyed and mute won’t do any good so best you get talking sunshine! ‘Do you come here often’ is about as fashionable and original as your dad’s old platform boots. ‘You are the most stunning girl I have ever seen’ is better and it is a compliment but it is also a tad cheesy and probably a lie. Unless you know this girl had the intelligence of a donkey then you really don’t want to me pulling a line like that on her. Think of something genuine and original like ‘I’m getting a little board of all the guy chat over there and you look like an interesting person so would you mind if I camped out here for a bit and chat to you?’ The worst thing she can say is no and you can walk away no worse off. At the least she should be a little flattered that you approached her out of all the other girls in the room so she can at least be polite enough to engage in a bit of light banter.
4. The banter begins
Make sure you aim to steer the conversation into interesting directions. If she’s happy to do all the talking then let her (it’s less pressure for you, you can learn a lot about her and bonus- all girls love a man that actually listens to her). If she now comes across a little shy this is your time to prove what a confident man you are. Ask her questions about herself and if her end of the conversation dries up then tell her about you- don’t ask to many questions or she may feel like she’s under interrogation! If you end up telling her a bit about you then make it sound positive. Even if your boy’s holiday to Ibiza ended up with a night in jail, alcohol poisoning and a STI tell her the weather was great, you boys bonded more and you bought back maracas for your gran.
5. Don't lie outright
As mentioned above, whatever you say must be on par with honesty. A slight exaggeration here and there is ok- everyone does it, but a big fib normally gets found out and if that happens that’s the last your see of her. If you hate work and your life is pants try and find a positive angle to play on.
6. Compliments
Dropping a compliment in during the conversation is good at this point. She will feel good and it will reflect well on you. Again compliments must be honest and original. ‘You have beautiful hands’, ‘You smell amazing’, ‘You have such radiant skin.’ I always like it when a guy notices the little things, like the kind of jewellery I am wearing, or say perhaps if I am wearing nice shoes. It really shows that a guy has class and isn't just starting at my chest!
No cheesiness or slime balls please!
7. Don’t show off
Ordering a bottle of champagne for her and her mates may seem generous and she may appear to love you for it but there are other ways to impress without flashing the cash. Keep it simple and friendly- dazzle her with your whit, charm and personality, not with the notes.
8. Be enthuastic
Don't go around hyping yourself up, but being optimistic and enthusiastic about your life is a great way to raise interest. Proclaiming you’re ‘the next big thing’ in advertising will come across a tad stuck up. So keep it plain and simple, be proud of who you are and others will be impressed. If you can talk about who you are with confidence, charm and humour then your ten times more likely to impress than if you're really negative about everything in your life. Remember, girls want to be amused, if you're bored by yourself, it's not very likely is it?
9. Character assassination
Are you dull as dish water? Do your mates opt for watching paint dry over the fun and excitement of spending time with you? Would you rather spend four hours discussing the deep and meaningful message hidden in the Star Wars trilogy? If so then its time to re-boot your character. You don’t have to totally re-invent yourself because then you wouldn’t be you but ask friends and family what they think your best qualities are and then develop them. I have a mate who looks like Kermit the frog but he has the most insane sense of humour and he has had more women after him than I have had shopping trips and as you can probably guess that’s a hell of a lot!
10. Be nice
Yep us ladies are all partial to a ‘bad boy’ from time to time but believe me once you have had one, most of us with any sense soon realise that they are not the way to go and tend to stay well clear of those types. If a man appears genuine, honest and nice in a down to earth, friendly way then you’ll be sure to get top marks when she sneaks off to the toilets to discuss you with her mates. No need to proclaim you donate half your wages to charity every month- although that’s a lovely thought we just really want to know your going be nice to us and not try and shag our best mate as soon as our back is turned. Big secret revealed here: The girls who appear most frosty and hard to approach are probably like that because some ‘bad boy’ has fucked them over in the past. Now their confidence has been dented and they are as unsure of men as ever. They may look like they would eat you alive but I bet nine out of ten of them just want to find a guy who will treat them nice and make them laugh…